In this audio, I share a life-changing moment — one that was bigger than anything I had ever experienced in my life up until that point. It was a breakthrough moment like no other, not even the birth of my daughter or the death of my mother.
In this audio, I share a life-changing moment — one that was bigger than anything I had ever experienced in my life up until that point. It was a breakthrough moment like no other, not even the birth of my daughter or the death of my mother.
This was very helpful and clear. Thank you!
Hi Joel: Thanks so much for your note. I really appreciate it. Have a great day.
Mary, this is the best thing I’ve listened to all week (and I’ve listened to a lot!). Thank you for sharing it. I haven’t thought of it before as taking “responsibility” but of having courage. However, I think the sentiment is the same. As you said, we’re so conditioned in our society to blame others and to have that victim mentality. We also seem to be so worried about what others will think. Like “How could you forgive him after what he’s done?” “You have to make him feel as bad as he’s made you feel,” etc. And yet, when we take responsibility for the way we feel, forgiveness comes naturally.
Curious if you’ve talked with others who don’t know the Principles about this and what they think. It has to be one of the more trickier concepts to grasp!
Hi Jill! It’s so nice to see you here. Thank you for taking the time to post such a thoughtful comment. On your point about forgiveness, I am going to post an audio about that shortly because it’s been significant for me. After I gained an understanding of the Principles, forgiveness became irrelevant. I had tried for 30 years to forgive him and couldn’t. Within just a few weeks of getting a glimpse of the Principles, I had no more animosity toward him because for the first time, I truly saw why he did what he did. So you’re right — it comes naturally, and for me it didn’t even feel like “forgiveness.” On your other point, I made some mistakes early on in sharing this idea about responsibility with other women who survived domestic violence. I didn’t share it in the right way, and it sounded like I was blaming them, which of course I wasn’t. If or when I have the opportunity again, I know I would talk about this differently, and more effectively, now.